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Self-care Biz Tips for Bizy People: F = Forget About Barriers

Are you itching for a change but a little bit unsure as to whether you should leap into it? Are BARRIERS holding you back from making the change you desire? This is a good time to assess where you are in life right now and where you’d like to be in the future and what it would take to bridge that gap.

James Prochaska, author of Changing for Good: A Revolutionary Six-Stage Program for Overcoming Bad Habits and Moving Your Life Positively Forward  outlines predictable stages we go through when making a change. Are you in denial about making a change? Thinking about it? Planning how you will do it? In the process of making the change? Or have you already completed it? And looking forward to making another one?

Once you decide what stage you are in, it’s time to look at the BARRIERS that are holding you back from embracing change.  For me this is the big stumbling block so I have created a process you can try.

Determine what change lies ahead for you and write it as a Desire Statement on the top of a blank page.

Ex:  My desire is to retire in 5 years.  My desire is to change jobs.  My desire is to create my own nursing business.  My desire is to travel the world.

Create 2 columns below the Desire Statement.

Title column #1 “ Barriers”.   Title Column #2 “Possibilities”

In column #1, list 10 reasons why you can’t have what you desire.

Ex:  I can’t quit my job because I won’t have enough money to live on.

Now read this list and note how you feel.  Not great right?

In column #2, re-word each statement from column #1 as if it could happen.

Ex:  There are many different ways to make money that don’t require working for a boss.

Now read this list and note how you feel.  Better, right?

Fold the paper so the Barrier list faces back and the Possibilities list faces forward.

Hang this up where you will see it every day so you will be focusing on what is possible instead of what is holding you back.

If you know anything about the Law of Attraction, “like attracts like” and if you focus on positive possibilities you will naturally attract positivity into your life.  And the best bonus of all, you will have changed your attitude from negative to positive and will be attracting more positive people into your life as well.  Check out the book Ask and It is Given by Esther Hicks.

Doubt this could happen?  Just try it out for awhile and keep a record of all the progress you are making.  Start a “breaking barriers” journal.  You will be amazed at how those barriers will stop influencing you.

Here are 7 steps to help you tackle BARRIERS in your life.

B – Believe in yourself and the gifts you have to share with the world.  Only you have these gifts and others are waiting for you to share.

A – Adjust to living in a world where change happens all the time and is business as usual

R – Resist the temptation to be stuck in a job you don’t like because of the security of having a paycheck and benefits when there are other ways to achieve this

R – Resolve to listen to your intuition and what your body and mind are telling you to do.

I – Invest in the time to assess your situation, learn about other opportunities and take care of yourself

E – Examine barriers you are facing and determine if they are valid or negotiable

R – Rejoice in the fact that you have choices in life and you can be whomever you want to be and can do whatever you want to do to have a great life.

I coach high performing professionals who aren’t achieving what they want in life because of significant barriers.  Contact me if that is happening to you and you want help.

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Self-care Biz Tips for Bizy People: E = Examine Your Options

Ready to make a lifestyle change that will make a difference in your life and health?  Looking for a framework to follow as you assess your next move?  I love the SOSPIE model of the National Wellness Institute: my go-to organization for personal and professional renewal www.nationalwelllness.org which uses a holistic model of living with YOU in the driver’s seat.

SOCIAL

As you embark on a new healthier path how does this affect you socially?  What networks and friendships will you leave behind and how will life be without them?  After all, your current social network could be enabling the same behaviors you want to change.

  • What current relationships do you have that may not be supportive for you?
  • What new relationships will you need to cultivate to support your new efforts?

OCCUPATIONAL

How supportive is your work environment when it comes to making a lifestyle change?  Have you tried before to make changes but not been successful because the environment was not conducive for your success? Make note of all the barriers so you are aware and not sabotaging yourself before you even start taking action steps.

  • What work challenges will you face?
  • What strategies will you need to implement at work to forward your progress?

SPIRITUAL

How would your belief about yourself change if you made a drastic change in your lifestyle?  Is your identity wrapped up in who you are now, and if you changed you would not be the same person? Would you feel lost without being the “old you”? Most of us feel spiritually alive when we are being true to ourself.

  • How will you manifest being true to yourself if you adopt a new lifestyle?

PHYSICAL

Is your body beaten down from all the years of stressful living?  It is never too late to bring your body back in shape for the next half of life.  And the good news is you can always find time to make health and fitness the priority it deserves.  You are in fact in charge of your own priorities and your own schedule. I write Jazzercise on my calendar before anything else takes away my time and after 10 years, it is working great!

  • What would you be willing to do to get your body moving on a regular basis?

INTELLECTUAL

You’ve been functioning at a highly cognitive level but you do need to provide your mind with some balance. All that intellectual stimulation can be very stressful without a break once in awhile. You can “shift your gears” into intellectually stimulating activities that still enlighten your mind but aren’t so mentally heavy.

How will you keep your brain engaged without over working it?

EMOTIONAL

Are you ready to accept the emotional impact of changing your lifestyle?  After all you may not be the same person you have already been once you change your behaviors. Since I believe in preventing problems before they arise, here are questions for you to address before you enter your next phase of your great life.

  • What does my lifestyle look like now and how will I manage myself without being that way?
  • What steps do I need to take to prepare for a smooth transition?
  • What does the next half of my life look like and how will it make me feel? (Very good I hope!)

Hopefully this framework will help you move forward successfully into your new healthier lifestyle.