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Self-care Biz Tips for Bizy People: F = Forget About Barriers

Are you itching for a change but a little bit unsure as to whether you should leap into it? Are BARRIERS holding you back from making the change you desire? This is a good time to assess where you are in life right now and where you’d like to be in the future and what it would take to bridge that gap.

James Prochaska, author of Changing for Good: A Revolutionary Six-Stage Program for Overcoming Bad Habits and Moving Your Life Positively Forward  outlines predictable stages we go through when making a change. Are you in denial about making a change? Thinking about it? Planning how you will do it? In the process of making the change? Or have you already completed it? And looking forward to making another one?

Once you decide what stage you are in, it’s time to look at the BARRIERS that are holding you back from embracing change.  For me this is the big stumbling block so I have created a process you can try.

Determine what change lies ahead for you and write it as a Desire Statement on the top of a blank page.

Ex:  My desire is to retire in 5 years.  My desire is to change jobs.  My desire is to create my own nursing business.  My desire is to travel the world.

Create 2 columns below the Desire Statement.

Title column #1 “ Barriers”.   Title Column #2 “Possibilities”

In column #1, list 10 reasons why you can’t have what you desire.

Ex:  I can’t quit my job because I won’t have enough money to live on.

Now read this list and note how you feel.  Not great right?

In column #2, re-word each statement from column #1 as if it could happen.

Ex:  There are many different ways to make money that don’t require working for a boss.

Now read this list and note how you feel.  Better, right?

Fold the paper so the Barrier list faces back and the Possibilities list faces forward.

Hang this up where you will see it every day so you will be focusing on what is possible instead of what is holding you back.

If you know anything about the Law of Attraction, “like attracts like” and if you focus on positive possibilities you will naturally attract positivity into your life.  And the best bonus of all, you will have changed your attitude from negative to positive and will be attracting more positive people into your life as well.  Check out the book Ask and It is Given by Esther Hicks.

Doubt this could happen?  Just try it out for awhile and keep a record of all the progress you are making.  Start a “breaking barriers” journal.  You will be amazed at how those barriers will stop influencing you.

Here are 7 steps to help you tackle BARRIERS in your life.

B – Believe in yourself and the gifts you have to share with the world.  Only you have these gifts and others are waiting for you to share.

A – Adjust to living in a world where change happens all the time and is business as usual

R – Resist the temptation to be stuck in a job you don’t like because of the security of having a paycheck and benefits when there are other ways to achieve this

R – Resolve to listen to your intuition and what your body and mind are telling you to do.

I – Invest in the time to assess your situation, learn about other opportunities and take care of yourself

E – Examine barriers you are facing and determine if they are valid or negotiable

R – Rejoice in the fact that you have choices in life and you can be whomever you want to be and can do whatever you want to do to have a great life.

I coach high performing professionals who aren’t achieving what they want in life because of significant barriers.  Contact me if that is happening to you and you want help.

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How to Create a Positive Mindset for a Positively Positive Year

What happens to you when negativity takes over and you can’t see anything good in your life, your work, your day?  Does it mean you are losing your mind, or are you just losing your perspective? Is there anyway to turn around “stinking thinking”?

I know what it is like to get caught up in negative thinking and it never ends well.  The more you focus on negative thoughts, the bigger and badder they get and the bigger the toll it takes on your body, mind and spirit.  Being in a state of chronic negative thinking can make you sick!

“Many negative emotions such as anger, fear, and frustration become problematic when those emotions turn into a more permanent disposition or a habitual outlook on the world,” explains Emiliana Simon-Thomas, PhD, science director of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley. And then you are at risk for ailments such as depression, heart disease, type 2 Diabetes, stroke, decreased immunity, inflammation.  http://www.health.com/heart-disease/can-negative-thinking-make-you-sick

So this is serious and no one wants to go down this path if they don’t have to.  But what strategies are available to break out of this cycle? Here are some ideas.

Awareness

Did you know you have control over your thoughts, and if you are always thinking negatively you can change that right on the spot?

Try this activity.  On a sheet of paper draw 2 columns side by side

In the left column, list all the negative words you can think of.

Once you complete the list, how do you feel?

In the right column list all the positive words you can think of.

Once you complete the list, how do you feel?

Notice that you feel better after writing the positive words and feel worse after writing the negative words.  So words matter!  Try to notice when you are using negative language and try to reframe it toward positive words when you catch it. This means paying attention to what you are thinking and correcting the thought before you speak it.

Practice

Now, identify what is leading to all the negative thoughts you are focused on and practice changing from negative to positive. Draw another 2 columns side by side.

List negative statements you make in the left column.  Ex: I get stressed out when I am at work.

Now rewrite each statement in the right column using positive words. Ex: I am grateful that I have the ability to provide support for people who need my services.

After you complete both lists, focus on the right column only and see if it changes your thinking from negative to positive.  Don’t give any attention to the left column because it will drag you down again.  Remember you have control over your thinking and you can only hold one thought in your mind at a time.  So choose which one you want to hold – negative or positive.

Tools

Positivity Self Test takes 2 minutes to complete. Your score provides a snapshot of how your emotions of the past day combine to create your positivity ratio. Do this as often as you want since it changes each time.  http://www.positivityratio.com/single.php

Loving Kindness Meditation.   This is a tool to improve compassion and resilience.  Practice it regularly to change your perspective. Access the recording from this link. https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/loving_kindness_meditation#

There are many ways to “refresh” your attitude and these are just a few.  As a wellness professional, I believe the answers lie within us. We just need to seek resources that will help us uncover our truths.  Bottom line is if you are stuck in negative thinking, make the decision to take a first step forward.  There are many resources available including wellness coaching to move forward with your goals.

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Be well on your wellness journey.

Carol

How to get what you want every time you ask.

I know – that doesn’t sound possible.  But how would you like to raise your odds of success?

Have you ever wanted something to happen to improve your life and it just wasn’t happening? No matter how hard you tried?  Maybe you were trying too hard and need to slack off a bit.  Sometimes we block our desires by pushing too hard and then get frustrated thinking “Why aren’t I getting anywhere?  I’m working as hard as I can and getting nowhere.”

Here’s an example.  I was teaching a class for teachers on how to bring positivity into the classroom using the Law of Attraction and suddenly realized that as much as I know about all the ways in the world to attract great things to my life, I still don’t always practice them. This class became a reminder of that so I’d like to share with you 5 tips to help you do less, feel better and attract more.

But first, watch this video and guess why this technique was a great way for me to activate the Law of Attraction and made me more receptive to manifesting what I desire.

So the purpose of the drumming was to make me feel better, happier, more relaxed, more accomplished, less stressed.  And when all those things happen for you, you are more open to receiving whatever you desire.  But how often do we spend the time doing wonderful things for ourselves to achieve this benefit?  In order for Law of Attraction to assist you in bringing you what you desire, you may need to schedule time on your calendar to fit it in to your busy day.

Here are some tips to get you started.
  1. First decide what desire you want to manifest for yourself
  2. Create a Vision Board that represents what your desire looks like and display it where you see it every day
  3. Schedule time every day to focus on your desire in a relaxed state
  4. Practice techniques you enjoy daily that relax you like meditation, yoga, Tai Chi, exercise, listening to relaxing music, etc.
  5. Keep a journal of all the things you start manifesting as proof that it works

Now you will be on your way to Getting What You Want (almost) Everytime You Ask.

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Be well manifesting your desires!

Carol