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Self Care Biz Tips for Buzy People: G = Gratitude Attitude

Fall has arrived and its a great time for an attitude check.  Sure you wish you were still in the summer mode, but this happens every year where we have to readjust back to those structured days of the “school year” calendar.  So instead of fighting it, why not take time out for some Gratitude.  We can never get enough of that to straighten out our thinking about life in general.  So here are my thoughts.

What are you grateful for from all your experiences that have made you the person you are now, and even set the stage for the person you will become.  It’s all about doing a life review and being grateful for what you have learned and what you still have to offer.  A bit like preparing yourself for a job interview, only now it is a life review as you prepare for your road ahead.

Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.    Melody Beattie

One thing I’ve learned about being grateful is that it changes your attitude from negative to positive, makes you feel a whole lot better and gives you an appreciation of everything you have and have done. It’s like taking a happy pill without using drugs!

Gratitude feels so good because it is the state of mind closest to your natural state in which you were born to live.   Esther Hicks

Begin by making the statement – “I am grateful for” – and see how the rest of this flows from your experience using the acronym GRATITUDE.  I’ll get you started with my experiences and you can fill in with yours.

I am grateful for:

 G – Giving to others from my heart and soul for the betterment of all I have served

“Giving” is an expression of gratitude for our blessings. Laura Arrillaga-Andreessen

What is your response about Giving:

R – Relationships with co-workers who share all the joys and sorrows of my profession and became a second family to me.

No one who achieves success does so without acknowledging the help of others. The wise and confident acknowledge this help with gratitude. Alfred North Whitehead

What is your response about Relationships:

A – Administering a successful wellness business that has made huge difference in the lives of others.

Gratitude is the sign of noble souls. Aesop

What is your response about Administering:

T – Teachers from my past who modeled what business success looks like and guided me on my path.

One looks back with appreciation to the brilliant teachers, but with gratitude to those who touched our human feelings. The curriculum is so much necessary raw material, but warmth is the vital element for the growing plant and for the soul of the child. Carl Jung

What is your response about Teachers:

I – Intuitive hits that came once I had my feet on the ground with my profession and then further using my intuition as another powerful business tool.

Gratitude bestows reverence, allowing us to encounter everyday epiphanies, those transcendent moments of awe that change forever how we experience life and the world. John Milton

What is your response about Intuitive hits:

T – Transitioning to different roles throughout my career as my stepping stones to success.

I’m so grateful when attendees at my programs catch the “wellness passion” that I have and start taking control of their own health and become empowered consumers.  Carol Ebert RN, Wellness Specialist 

What is your response about Transitioning:

U – Understanding the many facets of the human condition – body, mind and spirit – and learning how to keep that all in balance.

When you know in your bones that your body is a sacred gift, you move in the world with an effortless grace. Gratitude and humility rise up spontaneously. Debbie Ford

What is your response about Understanding:

D – Deciding moment by moment the right course of action to achieve the best results for my business and all concerned

Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us. Albert Schweitzer

What is your response about Deciding:

E – Enlightenment about the power I have to inspire others to be healthy by the example I set.

As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. John F. Kennedy

What is your response about Enlightenment:

What feelings do you have when you read your responses?

Does it make you feel better and more grateful for all you’ve done and who you are?

Create your own gratitude list of how powerful your career has been in your life.  Continue to add to your gratitude list on a regular basis.

Enjoy the process!

Carol

 

Self-care Biz Tips for Bizy People: F = Forget About Barriers

Are you itching for a change but a little bit unsure as to whether you should leap into it? Are BARRIERS holding you back from making the change you desire? This is a good time to assess where you are in life right now and where you’d like to be in the future and what it would take to bridge that gap.

James Prochaska, author of Changing for Good: A Revolutionary Six-Stage Program for Overcoming Bad Habits and Moving Your Life Positively Forward  outlines predictable stages we go through when making a change. Are you in denial about making a change? Thinking about it? Planning how you will do it? In the process of making the change? Or have you already completed it? And looking forward to making another one?

Once you decide what stage you are in, it’s time to look at the BARRIERS that are holding you back from embracing change.  For me this is the big stumbling block so I have created a process you can try.

Determine what change lies ahead for you and write it as a Desire Statement on the top of a blank page.

Ex:  My desire is to retire in 5 years.  My desire is to change jobs.  My desire is to create my own nursing business.  My desire is to travel the world.

Create 2 columns below the Desire Statement.

Title column #1 “ Barriers”.   Title Column #2 “Possibilities”

In column #1, list 10 reasons why you can’t have what you desire.

Ex:  I can’t quit my job because I won’t have enough money to live on.

Now read this list and note how you feel.  Not great right?

In column #2, re-word each statement from column #1 as if it could happen.

Ex:  There are many different ways to make money that don’t require working for a boss.

Now read this list and note how you feel.  Better, right?

Fold the paper so the Barrier list faces back and the Possibilities list faces forward.

Hang this up where you will see it every day so you will be focusing on what is possible instead of what is holding you back.

If you know anything about the Law of Attraction, “like attracts like” and if you focus on positive possibilities you will naturally attract positivity into your life.  And the best bonus of all, you will have changed your attitude from negative to positive and will be attracting more positive people into your life as well.  Check out the book Ask and It is Given by Esther Hicks.

Doubt this could happen?  Just try it out for awhile and keep a record of all the progress you are making.  Start a “breaking barriers” journal.  You will be amazed at how those barriers will stop influencing you.

Here are 7 steps to help you tackle BARRIERS in your life.

B – Believe in yourself and the gifts you have to share with the world.  Only you have these gifts and others are waiting for you to share.

A – Adjust to living in a world where change happens all the time and is business as usual

R – Resist the temptation to be stuck in a job you don’t like because of the security of having a paycheck and benefits when there are other ways to achieve this

R – Resolve to listen to your intuition and what your body and mind are telling you to do.

I – Invest in the time to assess your situation, learn about other opportunities and take care of yourself

E – Examine barriers you are facing and determine if they are valid or negotiable

R – Rejoice in the fact that you have choices in life and you can be whomever you want to be and can do whatever you want to do to have a great life.

I coach high performing professionals who aren’t achieving what they want in life because of significant barriers.  Contact me if that is happening to you and you want help.

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Self-care Biz Tips for Bizy People: E = Examine Your Options

Ready to make a lifestyle change that will make a difference in your life and health?  Looking for a framework to follow as you assess your next move?  I love the SOSPIE model of the National Wellness Institute: my go-to organization for personal and professional renewal www.nationalwelllness.org which uses a holistic model of living with YOU in the driver’s seat.

SOCIAL

As you embark on a new healthier path how does this affect you socially?  What networks and friendships will you leave behind and how will life be without them?  After all, your current social network could be enabling the same behaviors you want to change.

  • What current relationships do you have that may not be supportive for you?
  • What new relationships will you need to cultivate to support your new efforts?

OCCUPATIONAL

How supportive is your work environment when it comes to making a lifestyle change?  Have you tried before to make changes but not been successful because the environment was not conducive for your success? Make note of all the barriers so you are aware and not sabotaging yourself before you even start taking action steps.

  • What work challenges will you face?
  • What strategies will you need to implement at work to forward your progress?

SPIRITUAL

How would your belief about yourself change if you made a drastic change in your lifestyle?  Is your identity wrapped up in who you are now, and if you changed you would not be the same person? Would you feel lost without being the “old you”? Most of us feel spiritually alive when we are being true to ourself.

  • How will you manifest being true to yourself if you adopt a new lifestyle?

PHYSICAL

Is your body beaten down from all the years of stressful living?  It is never too late to bring your body back in shape for the next half of life.  And the good news is you can always find time to make health and fitness the priority it deserves.  You are in fact in charge of your own priorities and your own schedule. I write Jazzercise on my calendar before anything else takes away my time and after 10 years, it is working great!

  • What would you be willing to do to get your body moving on a regular basis?

INTELLECTUAL

You’ve been functioning at a highly cognitive level but you do need to provide your mind with some balance. All that intellectual stimulation can be very stressful without a break once in awhile. You can “shift your gears” into intellectually stimulating activities that still enlighten your mind but aren’t so mentally heavy.

How will you keep your brain engaged without over working it?

EMOTIONAL

Are you ready to accept the emotional impact of changing your lifestyle?  After all you may not be the same person you have already been once you change your behaviors. Since I believe in preventing problems before they arise, here are questions for you to address before you enter your next phase of your great life.

  • What does my lifestyle look like now and how will I manage myself without being that way?
  • What steps do I need to take to prepare for a smooth transition?
  • What does the next half of my life look like and how will it make me feel? (Very good I hope!)

Hopefully this framework will help you move forward successfully into your new healthier lifestyle.

So busy working on your “dream” career that you aren’t taking time for your most important asset – your health?  You know what they say – if you don’t have your health you don’t have anything!  So why not create a business plan to do just that. Here are 9 foolproof steps to guide you on the journey.

BIG DREAM Process

  1. Collect your own data.

Start paying attention to what other business leaders are doing to stay healthy.  Schedule a coffee date and ask them these questions:

  • How did you decide to integrate health practices into your business?
  • What was the biggest challenge you faced?
  • How did you overcome this challenge?
  • What was the biggest surprise you found?
  • What is your life like now vs before?
  1. What do you love to do that is healthy for you?

Pay attention to all the things YOU love to do. Which ones would benefit your health? This could be a relaxation strategy, or a physical activity, or a modification in your work schedule – you decide! If this becomes pleasurable rather than a chore, you are more apt to continue doing it for the long haul.

  1. Visualize doing it on a regular basis

Make it real for yourself by thinking about what it would “feel” like to actually integrate this into your day.  Are you feeling better? Do you have an overwhelming feeling that this really fits into your day?  If you get positive feedback then how willing are you to give more time and attention to taking action on it?

  1. Identify Barriers

Create a document with two columns.  Label one column “Barriers that stop me from doing what I love”.  Now list all the barriers that stand in your way of doing this for the rest of your life. Be honest and list at least 10 reasons.  Now reflect on how you feel when you read this list.

  1. Identify Possibilities

On the same sheet with two columns, label the second column with “Possibilities that could happen if there were no barriers”.   Now re-word each statement in the left column from what you can’t have to what you can have.

Ex:  Barrier = I don’t have the time to do what I want.

Possibility = I have more than enough time to make happen whatever I want.

  1. Focus on Possibilities not Barriers

Now reflect on the list of possibilities and how does reading it make you feel?  Which list gives you a good feeling?  Throw the list of barriers away and post the list of possibilities in a prominent location where you see it every day and remind you of how good it would feel.

  1. Set Your Intention

Once you have done the prep work, you are ready to set your intention on manifesting what you want to happen in your life.  Write it down and include an “end date” when you will have launched yourself into your new direction toward optimal health.

  1. Practice Visualizing

It is fine to set an intention and determine when that will happen, but sometimes we give up on our dreams because we don’t keep the fire alive.  Schedule a regular time to practice visualizing your big dream daily or weekly.  Back it up by creating a DREAM BOARD that hangs prominently where you see it every day to keep that picture alive in your head.

  1. Keep an Evidence Journal

If you do all these things how will you know if it is paying off?  In a journal, record all the baby steps and progress you have made moving forward toward your goal.  Some things may seem insignificant, but when you add them all up a bigger picture emerges.  Reflect on this regularly to provide evidence that your Big Dream is actually starting to manifest.

And that is how you bring BIG Health DREAMS into REALITY.

 

Enjoy the process and be well on your Journey!

 

Spring Into Feeling Good Again

Spring is on the horizon and I don’t know about you, but I’m feeling a little plump around the middle.  Even though I try to be active during the winter months, I still am less mobile and seem to rely on “comfort foods” more often.

But the sun is getting higher in the sky, and this means it’s time to start recreating my usual wellness lifestyle that I have let slide a bit.  And one of the best ways I know how is to partner up with a bunch of other people feeling the same way and doing a “Sugar Buster” program together.  After all, if it wasn’t for my addiction to sugar, I wouldn’t be eating all that sweet stuff that sabotages me every time.

Benefits

Kiss your carb and sugar cravings goodbye

Increase your energy during the day

Have more restful sleep during the night

Learn to control cravings, hunger and mood swings by balancing blood sugar

Achieve a more healthy, glowing complexion from detoxing and proper nutrition

Understand healthy eating, proper nutrition, and what supplements to take

Save money on your grocery bill with our healthy, delicious smoothies and recipe ideas

Be more productive in your home life, work and business by feeling great and maintaining focus

Build confidence with your new healthy self

Connect with other like-minded people

What you will receive

Two 45 min LIVE Coaching Calls by Dr Karen Wolfe,  Q&A Style

Direct access to your own sugar buster coach.

5 Day RESET Sugar Buster Kit (no stimulants, no hunger)

Access to the Sugar Buster Online Forum for support and to connect with other participants for ideas and motivation.

Shopping lists & recipes that you can personalize for your tastes so you know exactly what to eat that’s enjoyable and keeps you healthy.

Handouts, and tons of other resources to continue on with your health goals.

Lifetime access to Sugar Buster resources – You can repeat the program as many times as you desire.

So what do you think?  Want to join me?  Click here and tell me why you want to join in.

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I’ll give you a call and get you all signed up with the products you will need.

Deadline is March 1 and the actual 28-day program starts March 12.

Hope to hear from you soon!  Let’s do this thing!

 

 

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How to Create a Positive Mindset for a Positively Positive Year

What happens to you when negativity takes over and you can’t see anything good in your life, your work, your day?  Does it mean you are losing your mind, or are you just losing your perspective? Is there anyway to turn around “stinking thinking”?

I know what it is like to get caught up in negative thinking and it never ends well.  The more you focus on negative thoughts, the bigger and badder they get and the bigger the toll it takes on your body, mind and spirit.  Being in a state of chronic negative thinking can make you sick!

“Many negative emotions such as anger, fear, and frustration become problematic when those emotions turn into a more permanent disposition or a habitual outlook on the world,” explains Emiliana Simon-Thomas, PhD, science director of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley. And then you are at risk for ailments such as depression, heart disease, type 2 Diabetes, stroke, decreased immunity, inflammation.  http://www.health.com/heart-disease/can-negative-thinking-make-you-sick

So this is serious and no one wants to go down this path if they don’t have to.  But what strategies are available to break out of this cycle? Here are some ideas.

Awareness

Did you know you have control over your thoughts, and if you are always thinking negatively you can change that right on the spot?

Try this activity.  On a sheet of paper draw 2 columns side by side

In the left column, list all the negative words you can think of.

Once you complete the list, how do you feel?

In the right column list all the positive words you can think of.

Once you complete the list, how do you feel?

Notice that you feel better after writing the positive words and feel worse after writing the negative words.  So words matter!  Try to notice when you are using negative language and try to reframe it toward positive words when you catch it. This means paying attention to what you are thinking and correcting the thought before you speak it.

Practice

Now, identify what is leading to all the negative thoughts you are focused on and practice changing from negative to positive. Draw another 2 columns side by side.

List negative statements you make in the left column.  Ex: I get stressed out when I am at work.

Now rewrite each statement in the right column using positive words. Ex: I am grateful that I have the ability to provide support for people who need my services.

After you complete both lists, focus on the right column only and see if it changes your thinking from negative to positive.  Don’t give any attention to the left column because it will drag you down again.  Remember you have control over your thinking and you can only hold one thought in your mind at a time.  So choose which one you want to hold – negative or positive.

Tools

Positivity Self Test takes 2 minutes to complete. Your score provides a snapshot of how your emotions of the past day combine to create your positivity ratio. Do this as often as you want since it changes each time.  http://www.positivityratio.com/single.php

Loving Kindness Meditation.   This is a tool to improve compassion and resilience.  Practice it regularly to change your perspective. Access the recording from this link. https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/loving_kindness_meditation#

There are many ways to “refresh” your attitude and these are just a few.  As a wellness professional, I believe the answers lie within us. We just need to seek resources that will help us uncover our truths.  Bottom line is if you are stuck in negative thinking, make the decision to take a first step forward.  There are many resources available including wellness coaching to move forward with your goals.

If you would like a complimentary 20 minute laser coaching session with me just click here to contact me.

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Be well on your wellness journey.

Carol

10 Step Guide for a Rockin’ New Year

The word TRANSITION means the passage from one form, state, style, or place to another = CHANGE!  Some of you are cringing thinking about change, but others are thinking – BRING IT ON!  How many transitions are you experiencing right now?  

From holiday over-eating to New Year reckonings about weight?  From worrying about money to wondering what else you could do to increase your income?  From working in a job that you’ve outgrown to wondering what else you could be doing? From leaving the workforce to enter the world of retirement and not knowing how to adjust? Transitions are everywhere at any time and can be perceived as negative or positive.  I prefer the latter and have some thoughts to consider.

T – Trust your instincts.  Rather than be caught off guard when things change, take the high road and note what your gut is telling you about what it going on. Keep in mind the change you are experiencing might be just what you have been secretly wanting!

R – Reset your eating and exercise program.  Have you been stuck and know you want to get healthier but not sure how to make the first move? I’m sure you have dealt with this before, so reflect on what helped you be successful in the past and recreate those steps.

A – Adjust your thinking from I CAN’T  to  I CAN.  See yourself healthy, happy and whole.  Send time every day imagining yourself being your best and being grateful for all that you are and have.  Hang up pictures to visually represent what your goals look like so you can start living in that body even before you get there.

N – Notice what you need right now. Go outside right now for a walk.  Yes – right now!  By yourself!  Take a notepad and pen along because great ideas are sure to surface while you are walking and you may want to write them down before you lose them.  Focus as you walk on what you really need right now to move forward thru this transition. This will be your starting point.

S – Set goals in alignment with your values to create the life you love.  Have you ever taken the time to really ask yourself what you want? Yes, you know what your parents want for you, what your kids want, what your partner wants, and what you “should” want.  But what do you really want?  Write down 3 dreams you have for a more complete life and post it where you can ponder it.

I – Integrate all your skills into a single focus.  By now you have probably acquired a lot of great life and work skills that make you the fantastic talented person you are.  During this transition, you might find that it is time to put them all to good use and see what emerges.  Write down a list of everything you are great at – write until you can’t think of anything else – at least 30 things.

T – Train yourself for new skills.  After I had acquired all the skills I thought I needed in life, I opened up myself to what might be next for me – the key – being open to possibilities.  What showed up for me was “wellness coaching”, or some people call it “life coaching”.  When I was searching for “what’s next for me”, a friend coached me and after just 2 sessions, I had a new direction, a plan, and I was on my way again.  I loved the experience so much, I was trained to be a coach as well as a coach trainer.

I – Invite new opportunities.  When I was transitioning out of the workforce and into my own independent wellness business, I needed to figure out how to earn money while still doing the work I am passionate about.  Because I remained open to new ideas, I was presented with a way to help people get healthy as well as make the income I needed.  The key was to stay open to new ideas and give them a chance to see if they could work for you.

O – Own up to what is best for you. Not sure what direction to take as you transition?  Your guide should be how you “feel” about what you decide to do.  As they say, if it feels right – do it!

N – Now is the time to reinvent yourself.  I wrote a whole chapter on this in the book Wise Women Speak – Choosing Stepping Stones Along the Path.  My gift to you is a free download of this chapter by clicking here.   http://carolebert.com/meet-carol/free-ebook/

Enjoy the process of your transition.  Remember, it’s about the journey not the destination.  And above all make it fun!

Carol

 

Looking for a tax deduction before the end of the year?

As the year is beginning to end and tax time looms large in the near future, I just wanted to share the tax benefit of owning your own business in case you want to join our team with Dr. Christiane Northrup.

You can deduct the following:

All your start-up costs – for us it ranges from $300-$700

Business expenses like product give-aways, promotion, supplies, travel

*Also contact your tax professional for more possible deductions

 

Here’s what Sandy Botkin CPA, former IRS tax attorney says:

“Every north American taxpayer who works a full-time job and does not have a side business is probably overpaying taxes to the tune of $3000 to $9000 a year.”

So what do you think?  Is the time right for you to join us?  Please email back and we can set up a time to discuss this opportunity.  Would love to have you be a part of Dr. Northrup’s global wellness movement!

Just to refresh your memory, here are all the benefits of joining our WellPro wellness team who works in conjunction with Team Northrup.

  1. Exclusive access to WellPro International Wellness Coaching Certification* a clear and practical system to develop your coaching skills to apply directly to your Wellness Business (Priceless)
  2. The Igniting Prosperity Training – An 8-module online (self paced) course that will give you everything you need to know to activate your new wellness business. ($1500 value)
  3. Weekly WellPRO International Business Support – A weekly call with Dr. Karen Wolfe, Dr. Deb Kern and featured team leaders offering business coaching, updates and group trainings. ($500 value)
  4. Turn-Key Business System – Your own professional business management system. It’s like having a personal assistant for real time reports, progress charts & graphs, recognition and client support. (Priceless -Imagine hiring an assistant for these items!)
  5. The WellPRO International Business Workbook – Get started right with your blueprint for sustainable success. ($200 value)
  6. Exclusive membership in our WellPRO International and Team Northrup Facebook communities to connect with our incredible team, get your questions answered, and stay up-to-date on new announcements. (Priceless)
  7. The Sugar Buster Program – A Step by Step weight-loss/lifestyle program without deprivation and starvation. Learn how to increase your energy, improve your immune health, and achieve lasting lifestyle change. Shopping list, email support, recipes, stress reduction, exercise, meditation, low glycemic cooking, self-care tips and resources to continue on with your healthy lifestyle.
  8. Exclusive use of Clear The Way Program – An online program that guides your clients as they follow a specific nutritional protocol to enhance their digestion and support their body’s detoxification.
  9. A personalized, signed copy of Dr. Karen Wolfe’s book Is Your Lifestyle Killing You? + audiobook Medicine from the Inside Out ($50 value)
  10. The e-book of Create the Body Your Soul Desires: The Friendship Solution to Weight, Energy and Sexuality by Dr. Karen Wolfe and Deborah Kern. At last a soulful guide to the weight issue that is long overdue. This book puts you back in the driver seat of your life. It is a guidebook for you to live a conscious and fulfilling life. ($25 value)
  11. 21 Day Online Mentor Mastermind Program – Go step by step to build your business with Dr. Karen’s simple daily action strategy. ($1000 value)
  12. Online Media Center where you get an exclusive, behind-the-scenes peek at how the top wellness business builders in have grown their wellness businesses ($500 value)
  13. Unlimited access to our training call archives with new sessions being added weekly. ($1000 value)
  14. A free ticket to next the annual international conference when you join with the WellPRO Entrepreneurial business pack. ($450 value)
  15. Your own customizable, personal online nutrition store and customer website free for a year including your own fully integrated shopping cart. ($1540 value)
  16. A cutting edge and completely customizable business HUB with professional presentation tools, team management software, calendar, tax tracking software, and more. ($240 value)
  17. You’ll be part of The WellPRO International team, an extensive, international community of like-minded professionals dedicated to wellness in conjunction with Dr. Christiane Northrup. (Priceless)
  18. Access to the leading, highest quality nutritional products in the world from USANA Health Sciences at a 20% discount (Priceless – you can’t put a price tag on your health)
  19. Access to In-Person Mastermind Gatherings – Connect, get inspired and gather as a community of like-hearted wellness professionals. (priceless)
  20. A proven, duplicable system for growing residual income in your wellness business and improve your financial and physical health. (Priceless)

 

So what do you think about joining before December 31?  As Penny Northrup Kirk (Dr. Northrup’s sister) says:  What would your life be like in 5 years if you continue doing what you are doing right now?  Isn’t it time to take action toward creating the life you are meant to live?

Let’s talk!  When is a good time for a call before Christmas.  Let me know by clicking below.

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Be well on your wellness journey.

Thanks.  Carol

Keeping Your Loved One Alive and Well

Have you imagined what life would be like if your spouse died?  It’s only recently that I have pondered that occurrence.  I’ve been lucky enough to be married to the same man for 49 years (I still don’t believe that could be possible) but recently I have been worried about his health and what it would be like if he were not here.  Does that resonate with you?

My husband is obese, has Diabetes and is non-compliant when it comes to checking his blood sugars and following a Diabetic Diet.  And his A1C is over 8, and that really scares me.  He’s already been thru open heart surgery to fix four blockages, a stent put in two years later, and now is experiencing shortness of breath.  So back for more tests and another possible surgery. Things are happening that have me worried and I am starting to feel afraid that I could lose him.

The most frustrating part is that I know what he needs to do to improve his chances of living longer and healthier but I can’t get him to do it.  I’m sure it hasn’t been easy for him living with “Nurse Wellness” since he’s addicted to junk food and doesn’t want to change from pizza and hamburgers to whatever I have concocted that is super healthy and not loaded with sugar and grease. A definite dilemma, but it doesn’t mean that I give up trying to change him, despite knowing you can’t change anyone but yourself.

I will admit I have had to get sneaky over the years trying to trick him into adopting healthier eating habits.  For example, when I started my own wellness business with a focus on nutrition, I really learned the facts about using “food as medicine” so I was very motivated toward helping him lose weight, bring down those blood sugars and maybe get off of the many drugs he was on.  

One of the programs I had at my disposal was called a Sugar Cleanse and it was part of a weight loss program, so I thought this would be perfect for him. It consisted of replacing meals with shakes for 5 days, taking vitamins twice a day, eating nutrition bars in between meals and after 5 days he could lose 5 pounds.  But how to get him to do it?

Step one.  I knew that he had loved having milk shakes as a treat, so I suggested he might like to try one of my nutrition shakes.  And guess what – he liked it!  Step one was accomplished and he was willing to drink a shake every morning for breakfast.  

Step 2.  Getting him to take the vitamins.  He was already taking medications for his Diabetes, so what’s a few more pills?  I told him they had been giving me more energy, I felt better and was sleeping better so he decided to give them a try.  So I added them to his pill box and he took them all together without flinching.  Just a few more pills – no big deal.

Step 3.  Getting him to do the 5-day Sugar Cleanse.  Since I hadn’t tried it myself, I wanted to know what it was like so I could better support my customers about what to expect. I also knew that it helps with weight loss and blood sugar control so I asked him to do it with me and he said YES!  And he agreed to check his blood sugars during the 5 days to see if it was working.  NOTE:  I believe that even tho he originally seemed to be resistant to changing his lifestyle toward more healthy living, he really did want to get healthier but didn’t know how to proceed.  Sometimes when something comes along that sounds like it could work and is non-threatening, people jump on board.  Timing is everything!

And so the experiment began.  Day one his blood sugar was 180, and by day 5, it was 90.  He was thrilled!  And guess what – he lost 11 pounds over 5 days to my 5. Yes, men seem to lose weight faster than women – not fair!  Now he was on a roll and stayed on a modified version of the program for the next 6 months, lost over 40 pounds, got off of his blood pressure and cholesterol med and one of his Diabetes meds.  And felt a whole lot better and became a believer in eating “low glycemic” foods for weight and blood sugar control.  So being sneaky and trying to trick him into making some healthy lifestyle changes may not seem fair, but a girl’s got to do what a girl’s got to do.  And in this case it worked.

But now for the rest of the story.  I wish I could say that there is a happy ending and he stayed super healthy for the rest of his days.  But truth be told, this plan worked for several years but gradually his food addiction sneaked back in with his old habits and he gained all his weight back and finally ended up taking insulin for his Diabetes.

So here we are again, back at the beginning.  However, this time we’re older and now I’m  worried that his life could be in jeopardy.  But my nature is not to give up.  Especially when I know the results he had before were spectacular and life saving.  I am also armed with success stories from other clients who use this program and are healthier and extremely grateful to have found something that works, when all the meds in the world have not helped.  Even one man was able to drop his A1C from 8 to 5 and resolved his Diabetic Neuropathy!  And again I am amazed at the power of “food as medicine”.

So rather than giving into the fear of the “inevitable” with my husband, I prefer to take the high road and become the “trickster” again and try to work my magic once more.  After all, he is worth it and the path of healthcare with all those drugs and procedures should be the “path less traveled”.  Wellness is the way to true health and longevity.

Do you have a spouse or partner who has health issues you wish you could change and how are you handling it?  Please share your stories.

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