What does it mean to accept the inevitable? I’ve been pondering this lately as I’m getting older, (not that there’s anything wrong with that), but things are changing that I have no control over. For example I can’t jump around in Jazzercise like I used to. I have to step in place because my knees will bother me if I don’t. I find that I need a little rest time in my day so that I can keep going on into the evening with activities. I find that I’m more assertive than I used to be – yes, I’m a bit mouthy – and don’t really care about the consequences.
In other words things are changing and I actually now understand my mother’s aging process much better since I’m going through some of the things that she used to go through.
The bottom line is it’s my job to accept my age changes rather than complain and resist. It’s just the way it is
Now I know this isn’t easy and for sure it hasn’t been for me. I remember when I used to run for fitness but after several years it was causing me a lot of back pain. So I had to stop running and just do walking. And of course that caused me to be depressed because I thought I’ll never be as healthy as I want to be from just walking. And yet I have found that walking is a great fitness activity for me now.
So I have accepted that but I will admit that when you’re going through any kind of a change acceptance might not come right away. But if you give it some time and also appreciate the fact that this may be just a normal thing for you then you can finally make peace with it and accept it.
What are you going through right now that is challenging you?
Here are my tips to help you with acceptance of anything that might be changing for you that you are starting to resist.
A – Allow the change to come into being instead of fighting it
C – Communicate your feelings with family or friends so you don’t bottle things up
C – Create new opportunities that will achieve the same benefit you’ve been looking for only do it differently
E – Eliminate negative feelings that arise and focus on how can you shift and move forward with your life
P – Pretend all is as it should be and relax into these changes to allow your body and mind to relax
T – Train yourself to keep moving forward instead of yielding to depression, regret, anger
A – Allow time to accept the changes and let your mind go through the stages of grief and loss
N – Notice when you have shifted into accepting your new reality and celebrate your progress
C – Collaborate with others going through a similar situation and get ideas on how they’re dealing with it
E – Enjoy the process of change as another wonderful thing about being alive
And finally, I love this reminder from one of my support groups – “When I got busy I got better”
So I got busy writing this blog and now I feel better!
If you need some support around acceptance, contact me for a quick laser coaching session to give you a boost.